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You never got real feedback. That is a BIG problem.
What do your friends think of you? Honest feedback is a gift. But no-one gets it because friends are afraid to hurt your feelings and others just don’t care enough about you. How can you improve yourself without knowing where you need to improve. How are you known in your circles? What do people think of your character, looks, abilities? You simply don’t know.
It’s not easy to understand how other people perceive us. We are often uncertain, confused, or even completely unaware of what we project. This lack of self-awareness can be career-limiting, drive people away from you and stop you from being a better person.
I wanted to find a solution to this issue and help everyone in improving themselves. The root cause of the problem in this case is that the message and the messenger (delivery agent) are coupled. We all know the saying “Don’t shoot the messenger”; the more critical the message the more likely it is that the receiver will be upset. Therefore, it makes sense to seperate the person who sent the message and the messenger.
In the case of inter-personal feedback, the message sender and the messenger are the same person. If you give raw, unedited feedback to your friend, relative or colleague, you run the risk of ruining your relationship and most of the times you do not gain much from giving this…
